I had an interesting conversation today with a friend about lying. Today in class a boy cried because I caught him in a lie. We read a book and I told the class to write a summary about the book in their own words. I stressed that it did not mean copying from the book. Towards the end of the class, one boy had a really long summary. Feeling a bit suspicious, I asked him “Did you copy this from the book?” and of course he said no. I read the summary that he had written and it was the EXACT same as the book. I told him that he should think of his own words instead of copying the book and cheating and he still didn’t admit to copying the book. This went on for a while and eventually I gave him a new sheet of paper to start over. He cried for a while and it made me a bit sad.
Right after that class I had lunch, so I texted a friend to tell him what happened. I felt bad about making the kid cry, but he DID lie… My friend told me that “to lie is a contradiction in itself and it springs out of fear. Explain to him that he shouldn’t be afraid of you..it’s what they learn from their parents, it’s not your or their fault. Teach them that they can tell the truth. That’s the biggest lesson you can teach a kid.”
It made me think a lot. When you’re young, you think that lying will get you out of trouble, but it usually makes things worse. It’s a sad feeling that kids are so scared to get into trouble that they will lie to try to make things better. I try to be as honest as possible, but I still harbor that same fear at times about hurting someone’s feelings or seeming like a mean person if I tell the truth. Human nature is weird, as well as society. I still try to be as honest as possible, but I fear that people will view me differently if I tell the truth, even if it’s not so pleasant.
Tell me your thoughts!